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The Case of a Lost Identity? Or just evolved one?

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Feeling like I'm having a early-thirty life crisis. Sort of.


Being pregnant has had a mixed bag of emotions (or lack thereof, if you read my previous post on disconnection.)

 

But one of the things that is happening to me is this sense of urgency I feel to accomplish as many personal goals as I can before baby boy makes his appearance in January.

 

I told myself before I got pregnant that nothing really has to change when I have a kid. But the reality is, is that everything is going to change.  It's not just about me anymore, and I think the area in my life that will be most affected is TIME, and the fear of not having any for myself.

 

So I started to freak out thinking about all of the personal goals I have yet to accomplish. I'm working on my health/fitness business. I want to learn Italian. I want to go to Burning Man. 

 

So feeling like I'm running out of time ALREADY, I've been hitting the library hard focusing on my health/fitness biz. I signed up for Italian classes that start next week. Burning Man... well...that will have to wait lol.

 

I've heard from multiple people that scare the crap out of me saying, " be ready to lose your identity when you have a kid. Life as you know it is over! "

 

Yes, there will be changes. Yes, I will have to learn to manage time. Yes, it's not ONLY about me any more.  But NO, I refuse to buy into the notion that my identity will disappear. That all of my hard work, energy, invested time and dreams will go out the window. 

 

Sure, I'm freaking out a bit and trying to push hard with rolling out my dream ideas before January. But "the idea" that people's identities disappear when having kids just doesn't sit well with me. I'm a hard working, goal oriented, enthusiastic person and believe that 'ME TIME" is just as important as anything else. 

I will be a mother, which means I am the foundation, and taking care of myself and happiness (AKA PERSONAL GOALS) will flow into taking care of my family. I need to keep my sanity too, right? 

 

Nothing has to be lost. Life just EVOLVES.

 

So hear me now as I write down in words, a promise to myself, to stay true, focused, and be the best SUPER MOM I can.

 

Let's reconvene in 6 months, shall we?

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First Trimester SurvivalTips

Pregnancy is a pretty amazing thing. You are literally growing a tiny human inside of you, and your body does some pretty incredible work in changing, adapting and making room for little one.

I'm still pinching myself if this is real yet (and yes I'm 17 weeks pregnant) and despite how sick I have been and how awful I feel at times, it's hard to believe that I am INDEED pregnant because I'm not sporting a big belly yet.

I honestly feel like some days I just have a bad hangover, without the drinking the night before.

Please tell me I'm not the only one in the universe that has felt this way before?

BUT YES, I am growing a little human inside of me, thats what the doctors say anyway, hehe and I see his little feet kicking and dancing on the screen when I see him, so it must be true!

I always thought I would be one of those girls that has a great pregnancy. You know, the ones that say, "I LOVE BEING PREGNANT." But I have had some rough days, constant nausea and a real short fuse.

Here are some of the things that helped me during my first trimester ( and still leading into my second) that I hope will help you as well.

Ginger, Turmeric and Lemon Tea

This has become a daily ritual for me. At the beginning of my first trimester I would get nausea at night, but now it's leading into the morning as I move further along. I buy fresh ginger and turmeric and the market. I will slice both into chunks and boil for about 8 minutes, adding in 1/2 squeezed lemon before drinking.

Sour Patch Kids or Sour Jolly Ranchers

I'm not quite sure what it is about sour foods helping nausea, but it works. Luckily for my my husband is a candy lover so had these in the house, but sour patch kids and jolly ranchers helped tremendously with my nausea throughout the day, especially at work. I tried the Preggie Pops that everyone loves, but they literally TORE UP my tongue to where I was bleeding.

Pregnancy Pillow

This is probably the number one thing I would recommend to any pregnant woman. I invested in one early in my pregnancy and I can't sleep without it anymore. The husband feels a little left out now (lol) but it is extremely necessary for getting comfortable and working with the curves in your body. This would probably be more useful later on in the pregnancy, but I've been using it since the day I found out I was pregnant.

Change of Eating Patterns

Anytime I got hungry was a bad thing, because that usually meant nausea came with it. Eating smaller/more frequent meals has been helpful in keeping the nausea away.

Finding the right Prenatal Vitamins

This was a tough one for me because I struggled with nausea intensifying after taking my prenatal, even when taken with meals and at night. I ended up opting for  365 brand Prenatal Gummy Vitamins. They seemed to be easier on my stomach and also more enjoyable to eat for that sugar/candy craving.